Saturday, May 19, 2012

KS v. V-J-J

The story of how, at 38 years old, I found myself without health insurance, sitting in the lobby of my local Planned Parenthood is not a sad story.  I’m not one of those victims of the economy that might be profiled in a story in Newsweek.  I was not laid off.  My insurance benefits weren’t cut off by the man.  Quite to the contrary, I willingly and voluntarily gave up a job with health benefits in order to avail myself more fully to the family I am raising.  I take my job as a mother seriously.  Hot breakfasts are important to me.  I like, no... love, making snacks and helping with math homework after school.  The library is my favorite place to explore with them.  I need to keep my schedule pretty open for that stuff. Besides, my kids and I are still getting to know each other, and those little turds keep changing every damn thing about themselves every time I turn around, so there is always lots more to learn.  Time with them feels short and precious, and I trust the little old ladies in the grocery store who look at us longingly and caution me that it will be over before I know it.  I always nod politely, but what I want to say is: I know it, lady, and please don’t think for one second that I am unaware of the speed at which I’m traveling, but I don’t see a hand brake around here, so I’m just going to stay in this wagon with them and careen recklessly through this mine shaft while life bucks them out one at a time until I’m the only one in it.  

Rather than commit myself to a 40+ hour workweek that would provide us with benefits, I waitress.  Short of being one of those really expensive escorts, it’s the best way I can find to earn the most dollars in the fewest hours.  Also it keeps my legs strong and curvy.  Also I like doing it a lot, lot, lot.  And those high paid escorts probably have to shave, like, every day, and talk about boring things with boring people, and then have sex with them.  I like talking about boring things with my not-boring husband, and then I might not even want to have sex with him, and he can’t ask for a refund.   Besides, those girls always end up dead on Dateline.  

So here’s what we know so far: I love being a mama, I work for cash, I do not have health insurance, I am not a call girl.  

Let’s go back to the top of the page, when I referenced my “local” Planned Parenthood.  By “local” I really mean “closest,” which is about 50 miles from here.  The actual “local” office closed in 2010.  If I were without transportation, I could maybe take the student shuttle bus that runs from Lawrence to Overland Park’s Johnson County Community College, then walk the remaining five miles to the Planned Parenthood clinic.  But my appointment was on Saturday, and the bus only runs Monday through Friday, so I would need to enlist the help of a friend with a car, or pony up $75 for a cab ride.  Lucky for me, I’ve got a sweet minivan with one of those rad honor roll bumper stickers.  I only mention it because, as I said, if I didn’t have transportation, arranging for it might be another obstacle between myself and affordable health care.  Another benefit to having a car when you go to Planned Parenthood, at least in Kansas, is that you can drive past the protesters on your way to the back parking lot, rather than having to walk past them on your way in.  They aren’t allowed on the property itself, so they keep to the sidewalk out front.  If you were on foot, you’d have to walk straight through them, even if you’re just on your way in for a pap smear.  That’s right.  In Kansas, if you are too poor to afford health insurance and are relegated to the Planned Parenthood for your lady bits’ annual tune up, God hates you.  If you are also too poor to own a car, you are going to have to physically brush shoulders with someone holding a sign that says so.  

Which brings me to the front door.  I try to open it and, finding it locked, confusedly look around for another door.  Then a few seconds later, a very large man (about 6’5”, 450 pounds) in a very large uniform opens the tinted bulletproof glass door and asks what I want.  I give him my name, my identification.  I smile.  He doesn’t.  He wands me front and back with one of those airport TSA thingies and looks inside my purse, tells me to go put my phone in the car, wands me and searches my bag again once I’ve done so... everything but the invasive internal exam I’m there for in the first place.  They should just give this dude some swabs and hand sanitizer and half of us wouldn’t even have to go inside at all.  Then he nods me in.  That’s when it hits me: I am on the front lines of America’s War on Women’s Reproductive Rights. When I say war, I mean war, as evidenced by the bulletproof glass and ultra-tight security.  And the war is not restricted to family planning services, unless you also consider cancer screenings and hormone therapy for medical purposes family planning.  I guess keeping mothers and daughters and grandmothers alive falls under that category.  They still count as part of the family, for now.

Inside the waiting room, I survey my contemporaries.  Most sit alone, as I do.  There are all ages, all ethnicities. A few have partners with them.  There’s an Eastern Indian woman with brightly ornate, flowing clothes and a long, wavy, black ponytail streaked with grey.  A skinny teenage girl comes in with her dad.  He does all the talking while leaning closely into the sliding bulletproof glass window that surrounds the receptionist.  He speaks in a hushed voice.  The receptionists are friendly and efficient.  They wet their fingers intermittently on their tongues as they fly through the paperwork and count the cash payments of the uninsured patients they care for.  It occurs to me how brave they are, even with the bulletproof glass and enormous security guard, to do what they do, and so cheerfully.  They have polished nails and funky hairdos and genuine smiles.  I’m struck by the contrast between this place and the waiting rooms of the OB/GYNs who delivered my three kids, back when I had health insurance and went to the real doctor.  First, and most obviously, there was no bulletproof glass in those offices.  Those walls were pastel and floral, with wicker decor and photos of brand new sleeping babies dressed up like pumpkins and tomatoes.  Here, the walls are gun metal gray, with posters advocating a woman’s right to choose.  At the real doctor, there were no posters on the wall with facts about HIV transmission, there was no guard at the door.  But the warmth I experience from the women working at Planned Parenthood far surpasses any I received from the reception staff at the real doctor’s office.  These women have been completely stripped of any of the entitled, bored and fussy attitude that those women seemed to have.  Chances are, they never had it in the first place, that's why they're here. Or maybe it’s because they don’t have to deal with insurance paperwork all day long.  They have to deal with people.

The receptionist kindly informed me that “everyone had shown up for their appointments today” so I was going to have to wait a while past my scheduled appointment time.  I took that time, which ended up being more than an hour, to consider my situation.  First, I wondered why it was notable that everyone had shown up today?  Do they overbook appointments with the assumption that some patients will not be able to make it?  I came from 50 miles away.  Some women travel farther.  Some can’t get rides.  Some may be scheduled for appointments they change their minds about keeping.  I can tell, or think I can, the women who are there for abortion services.  A girl with long, matted black hair and a long black jacket pays at the window with wads of crumpled twenty dollar bills she extracts two or three at a time from her black jeans until she counts out $360.00.  I only noticed because it was 80 degrees outside.  The jacket caught my attention.  Her pained effort to straighten out and count all those bills while the receptionist looked on with patience is what held it.  And I thought to myself, whatever fight this girl is fighting, whatever led her here, it’s hers to fight.  Not her state representative’s.  Not her pastor’s.  Certainly not a congressional committee made up entirely of men and for fuck’s sake not Sam Brownback’s.  They will never sit here.  They will never have to make decisions for themselves and their families that lead them to this waiting room.  Ever.  There is no male equivalent to the Women’s Health Clinic.  This would be a good time to mention that no state has passed a bill saying that doctors and pharmacists don’t have to prescribe medication that assists with any issues that may happen in a man’s pants... no legislation that says “hey, it’s God’s will, slugger.  Guess you just don’t get another turn at bat.”

In the late sixties and seventies, America accepted that women’s reproductive rights were not a matter for government regulation.  As women became increasingly confident taking control of issues that affected their health and families, they were subsequently confident taking control of their educations, their careers, their spiritual growth.  That’s why they call it health and wellness.  The wellness part is the rest of your life, the part your healthy body allows you to do. Of course there were always right wing religious organizations and individuals who damned the movement to hell, but lately this movement is happening in my (and other) state house of representatives.  This effort to restrict the services available to women is a direct attack on our wellness.  Fact: political regimes throughout history have used sexual humiliation as a means of maintaining control over women, and continue to do so. Taking control of a woman's body through oppressive legislation is a form of sexual humiliation.

I’m not sure what they’re so afraid of.  It can't be money. We’ve never broken the cap of 16% of the top earners in any economic sector. Pick one: Hollywood, aerospace engineering, Wall Street.  16% ladies, that’s where we max out.  I can be cool with that, but let’s get something straight: I will fight until I’ve lost every one of my teeth in the skin of those fat fuckers, until I’ve lost all my fingernails digging out, to keep that percentage.  We will keep our 16%, and we will maintain the rights our mothers (and my own father) won for us.  And if you think that this passive, mindless, video-game-obsessed generation is going to sit by while you take away our ability to make decisions about our own bodies, that’s even better.  Because you won’t see us coming.  Maybe you forgot... we're women... we’re the spenders.  Some of us shop for shoes and some of us scour thrift stores for vintage dresses and some of us stay up late and watch QVC and some of us love ebay, but we are the spenders.  We know this democracy thing is rigged.  You guys think you have the game on lock down but we’ve got dollars and the know-how to spend them wisely.  

My money represents my hard work, my swollen feet, my aching hips, and my time away from my family. How I choose to spend it is spiritual currency. I will continue to work for cash and my money will go to Planned Parenthood.  I’ll walk if I have to, past the protesters, past the guard who protects the nice ladies who work there, to sit in the dingy waiting room and wait an extra hour.  It’s my money, and that's where I want to spend it. Hear this Koch brothers, you godless, bottom-feeding bastards who put the “$$” in Te$ P$rty, who bought all those elections in 2010 when the conservatives swept the house and senate and started to immediately dismantle the civil rights we thought were secure... I know what products you make, and I’d rather wipe my ass with my hand than shell out a single one of my hard-earned dollars for a roll of your toilet paper.  

I live in the heartland.  This is where the fight seems most futile.  Where my vote at the poll is a tiny blue pin head in a sea of red.  I can’t win at the poll.  There is a more creative solution.  Women all over the world have worked to topple regimes and dismantle policies more oppressive than these through tireless search for the back door into the battle.  When they can’t find a back door, they look for a basement window.  Any way to get in and make a change.  Sure, you’re wiley and persuasively flirtatious when that’s all that’s called for, but this situation might require a little more muscle.  Use what you have.  Use dollars when and where you can.  Find out where the money comes from, which corporations have been funneling money into the elections in your state. Then boycott those. I know, that sounds like a lot of work and research, but consider that women in Uganda are protesting similar policies topless in the street and facing arrest doing so. Our mothers and grandmothers marched and protested and fought hard for this shit. And they didn't have more than landline telephones to help them organize. And maybe college newspapers. Donate to Planned Parenthood, even a little helps.   Find out how you can help:

http://www.plannedparenthoodaction.org/

I sat in the waiting room of Planned Parenthood today because I thought it was the only health care I could afford.  I left in tears, knowing I can’t afford not to go back.  



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  2. ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT. I want to copy and past the most powerful part to my Facebook page, but there are so many I can't decide. I'm Googling the Koch Brothers now to figure out what of theirs, if anything, I can eliminate from my life. And I'm posting this to Facebook. Hopefully they haven't loaded up on stock in that.

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    1. I was doing the same thing as I was reading...trying to find the most powerful part to post on Facebook. But it's all so powerful.

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  3. I am very glad you are not my mother. You sounds very angry and I can assure you my mother never used that kind of language. And, what do the Koch Brothers have to do with any of this? You give them a lot of credit if you think they bought the last election. I am pretty sure they are not democrats.

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    1. Wow, Jill, it pains me to see how completely and utterly you missed the point of this article and how happily you flaunt your ignorance of politics. You may want to do a little reading up before commenting in a public forum, although you are correct: the Koch brothers are definitely not democrats. The elections they paid for were all at the state levels and allowed Tea Party candidates the majority that is currently blocking all progress for our country, and systematically attempting to take women's rights back to the stone age.

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    2. Jill, it is great that your mother never cursed. She obviously also never taught you the importance of educating yourself about political issues that can have a profound and lasting effect on your life. But, hey, nobody's mom is perfect, right?

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    3. Jill, if you think Meghan is angry, you don't even want to talk to me, her father, who is sick and fucking tired of the assaults by the religious right and the Catholic church on women's reproductive rights, and the attempts to force their beliefs down our collective throats.

      If I didn't have kids and grandkids in the US, I would be SO out of here on a boat to Australia or New Zealand; the barbarians are at the gate!

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    4. That's quite all right, Jill honey. I am pretty sure Meg's glad she's not your mother too. See? Everyone wins.

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    5. Wow. I think I love you August. Perfect.

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    6. Yes, August, you put me to shame ;)

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    7. Jill, please crawl back into the hole you came from.
      Steve, LMFAO!!! YES!!! Seriously, LOVE you man. Bravo for raising such an amazing daughter!
      August, I think every one is glad they are not her mother. LOL. (Except her own mother of course. But hopefully even she is ashamed right now.)

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    8. Totally they bought the election, dear, totally. Check the coffers, or check the news, it is now common knowledge. Corpocracy, not democracy, brought to you by the Koch Brothers.

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  4. Thank you, Meg. I'm determined to do that research, to vote with everything I've got, and you've just strengthened that resolve tenfold.

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  5. Meg, wonderful piece of writing. I'm a writer myself, moving back to Lawrence after being away for a short time. If you're part of any writing group in town, I'd love to meet you sometime. Or if you're not, I'd love to get together for coffee or with other writers to share material. I shared this piece of yours on Facebook when I saw it on a friend's page (Phoebe, up above) and it's already inspired a couple of my friends to share it as well. I think others will keep it going. This is one of the most powerful pieces of writing that I've read in a while. Keep it up.

    @Jill: You're damn right Meg is mad, as are all of us women who are paying attention. We are being assulted, state by state, day by day, minute by minute. If we don't all get out and vote en mass, we are finished. Our daughters will lose important rights that women have been fighting for for the last 150 years.

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  6. Brilliant, Meg. Koch Industries Boycott info here: http://www.chailife.com/2011/02/boycott-koch-industries-avoid-these-brands/

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  7. This.is.awesome. So thought provoking and gritty and REAL. You said it all for me. I am sharing this as much as I possibly can. God Bless.

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  8. This is powerful and wonderful. Great post. :)
    I'm the mom of two, and gave another up for adoption when I was 21. I'm still as angry as you are about the threats of not having the rights over my own frickin body. And people who judge others...who do they think they are?

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  9. I am so glad to read this and hear what you have to say. Planned Parenthood did great things for me when I was young. I had a breast lump at 19 that they found and got me to the right doctor and got a biopsy...not cancer. But who knows. What if it had been cancer and no one was there to find it. Why are we going back to this dark ages mentality when it comes to women's rights. Did they think we were just going to to sit and take it. We will show them with our votes and where we put our money. Thanks again for saying what you said. Alice Paul would be proud.

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  10. Our state has made me feel so less than human and this post beautifully articulated why. Thank you, Meg!

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  11. You articulated beautifully for me WHY the fight MUST continue. Thank you.

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  12. Meg + Meg's dad Steve = FUCKING BRILLIANT. Loved this piece so much. Sharing it with everyone I know. It's what I've been feeling and couldn't find the words to say. It's what makes me start to cry for no reason other than watching the news or reading a newspaper.

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  13. I'm a long-time repro rights activist and advocate. The only time I've been to Kansas was to defend Dr. Tiller's clinic against the violent and hateful people who would eventually murder him. Your post is powerful and important, and I'm going to share it widely. Thank you.

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  14. Not a word do I dispute, nor have failed to fight with myself. But is it possible I'm Nixon's (ah!) silent minority: this is wrong, we mustn't allow it, NONONO? But I gotta fix the daughter's skirt, read over the essay of the boy, take the other to swimming, make sure we got milk in the house, get the report over to the Board, and work on the fundraiser. How can the achievements of our spiritual mothers fade away? If we let them. But I got stuff to do! What's wrong with the PLANET? Boys everywhere: here the Middle East (Arabs and Jews) Asia Latin America and I don't know what to say bout New Zealand are all pressing their thumbs down on the girls, trying to bore themus into the ground. Great essay, sweetheart, and we gotta get out there and make it happen.

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  15. FUCKING BRILLIANT is right. This is some of the best writing I have ever read. Please get yourself a megaphone and a video camera and broadcast this to the entire nation from the Capitol steps - everyone needs to hear this.

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  16. Brilliant. Amazing piece of writing. The only part you missed was how, not only are we the spenders, we are like a dog with a bone. We are stubborn as hell and we aren't going to let go of our hard won rights without a fight.

    @Jill - I'm pretty sure your head is so far up your own a$$ that the lump in your throat is your goddamn nose. Of course Meg is angry. We NEED to be angry, we have a RIGHT to be angry and if you aren't angry then you need to research the subject at hand and believe me, you will GET angry.

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    1. P.S. I am adding you to my blogroll Meg:) You're the kind of writer I want to be when I grow up:)

      Thanks again for the great read,
      MamaZinga
      http://ceeceescrazyworld.blogspot.ca/

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  17. Thanks for this post. You did something brave by quitting your job, and I congratulate you. Here's hoping the ACA gets fully implemented.

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  18. Inspiring! Walmart is a big contributor to anti pro-choice groups, one of the many reasons to boycott walmart

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  19. "Hear this Koch brothers, you godless, bottom-feeding bastards...."

    Hey! The atheist community is the staunchest supporter of women's rights because it is religion that subjugates women. It is religious belief that is right now waging war on your reproductive rights, health, etc.

    Using "godless" as an insult is unfair. The local atheist group I'm involved with in Alabama has a lot of members who are escorts at our "local" clinic. Our members are very active in fighting against the "probe" bill and "personhood" bill and it was atheists who won that battle here in Alabama two months ago.

    The godless are on your side!

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    1. I agree! Atheists are some of the kindest, most inclusive people I've ever known. They battle hard--maybe the hardest--for equality and reproductive rights. Kiss a secular activist today!

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  20. Fantastic post. I've been considering writing a post as someone who chose to terminate not one but two pregnancies—and is a member of the upper middle class, owns a business, and is a single mother to a fantastic son. You are an inspiration and a brave woman to share. Thank you.

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  21. Wow. Just WOW. Meg, I echo MamaZinga; YOU are the kind of writer I want to be when I grow up.
    "PPH" was so good to both my sister and me when we were growing up with a loving but very conservative father -- I too experienced the warmth and palpable care and concern of the gals behind the desk, even though the stream of women into the clinic never seemed to let the lobby empty completely any time I went. I was amused to see that the sign on the main reception desk identified the wonderful woman there as the "Contraceptionist" (...do they have that sign in other clinics other places?). When my younger sister was old enough, I went with her for her first appointment. Whether either of us became sexually active was completely beside the point, the point was, we would be prepared if the need arose; availing ourselves of the Front End of health and birth control so we wouldn't have to go there for what the protesters were trying to block.
    As I got older and began to work, there was a period of time where for some reason Pap smears weren't covered by my work's insurance -- unless I said I had come in for something else about my Grrl Parts for that visit. I went back to PPH for my yearly checkups and the deeply discounted BCPs. I could not have done it without them.
    And the sweet and understanding magenta-haired older woman, who held my hand and gave me a hug when I tearfully went in for a pregnancy test before going back east to meet my boyfriend's family when I realized I could be a couple months pregnant, will always, always live in my heart as a paragon of care. I wasn't the first one she'd seen in tears that day but she was as present for me as she must have been for the others that day, that week, that year.
    Your essay really brings to life what it must be like for someone, ANYONE, who has to go thru the line of protesters to get even routine care -- God/Goddess/Universe bless Planned Parenthood for being there when they made the difficult crossing. Thank you for your essay. Bless you, too.

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  22. This is a beautiful post, Meg, God bless you! God bless you and your family!

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  23. As a single parent and father of a college aged son and daughter, I can't help but wonder why we, as a country, are choosing to go backwards. I am luckily enough to live in the great Commonwealth of Massachusetts (you know, the place where the liberal educated socialist elite come from) that recognizes the legitimacy of homosexual relationships and requires health care for all. And yet we have paint on the sidewalk to limit how close protesters can come to the entrance to the PP in an area surrounded by thousands of college students (BU, BC, MIT, Harvard all within a couple of miles).

    Why do we allow money and those with money to decide for us whether we can be healthy or whether we can raise our children to be healthy? How do we decide with all the wealth in this country that 51% of our population are undeserving of safe and legal health care? How can people, like @Jill, live in a free society and isolate themselves from facts so well that they do not understand the basic dynamics of the society around them? And, maybe I've been jaded by too many late night arguments in bars with right-wing union members, but @Jill's comment seems to be dripping with far more (unspoken) anger than even she understands.

    Ok, I'll stop my rant here. I fear though that despite my beliefs and optimism, that I'm handing over a country to my children far worse than the one I was handed. I do, however, applaud anyone with the determination and eloquence to point out that the Emperor has no clothes. Thank you, @Meg. From myself and for my children.

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  24. Great read, but I also have to take objection to using "godless" as an insult to the Koch brothers, as many, many godless people are on the front lines of this battle. Associated those of us who are godless with the people we are fighting against is mind-boggling.

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  25. Maybe change "godless" to pseudo religious.

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  26. I enjoyed your article. I'm a PP father, myself. My daughter's prenatal care was from PP and my vasectomy was performed there.

    The only thing I take issue with is the casual slam of sex workers. It's an ugly and unnecessary blemish in what ws an otherwise beautiful piece. It may seem funny to dig at sex workers, but they're an easy target. Plus, taking a sex work shaming attitude in an article promoting women's rights over their own bodies is glaringly contradictory.

    If you don't want others to judge your decisions, don't judge others.

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    1. I don't see a slam on sex workers here, nor do I see judgement. She simply stated that they sometimes end up dead on Dateline. Maybe a little flip, but certainly not a false statement.

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  27. BRAVO!!! Encore, encore!!
    Love it all. Couldn't have said it better myself. Keep up the fight, and the rest of us with even 2oz's of sense will do the same.


    PS. Love your dad's response to Jill. CLASSIC!! I will be laughing about that for days!

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  28. Thank you for sharing your experience in such a well-written article.

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  29. We've all got to remember that our rights -- civil rights, child labor laws, even the Bill of Rights -- are fragile and need us to stand up for them, for ourselves, our families (however you define that term) and for those too scared to stand up for themselves. In the Women's Movement of the 70's we only made tiny inroads; the reactionaries -- Koch brothers, et al., want to take all that away and then some. My dear beloved Catholic Church is infected by a new generation of head-in-the-sand ostriches who wouldn't object if slavery were reintroduced. We must all keep up the struggle to keep what we've gained and to expand those rights for all including undocumented aliens and my trans sisters and brothers -- all LGBT people. The final message to the opponents is, "We're not going away!" God bless you.

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  30. Meg, is there some way to change the graphic and description of this that is soaring around Facebook, so more people will be tempted to read your very excellent article ?

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    1. When you suggest changing the graphic, are you suggesting removing the nude photo? VJJ (vagina) is the whole point.

      [signed] Meg's dad.

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  31. Yes as someone who believes that life should not be snuffed out I agree we should not throw out the baby with the bath water

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  32. thank you and you've reminded me to make my annual donation (and ACLU).
    I do see Walking Dad's point as well.
    ps I shared to FB

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  33. I have shared and shared this today, and not sure why my earlier comment didn't make the cut.

    I am sympathetic with your political point, so I discount that. And after consciously doing that, I have to say that your prose is extraordinary. The web has a million blogs, and like mine, most of them are moderately readable at best.

    You, on the other hand, are a gifted storyteller.

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  34. Brilliant writing, keep it up. From a great-grandmother!

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  35. Meg,

    This comment is from a friend who is a published author of multiple books. "Thank you so much for sharing this remarkable article. I will send it out to friends, including [local State legislator] and her campaign as Planned Parenthood endorsed her and I think this will really resonate with them. To my mind, Meg is a fantastic writer, writing with passion, conviction, knowledge and quite a talent for building the drama as the story goes along. Near tears, myself, at the end....the detail, the ability to depict individuals and of course the passion in this is compelling."

    As I said earlier, you need a paying gig.

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  36. This issue is not about religion, it's about the protection of the unborn. If planned parenthood wants to help women with health issues, abortion is not one of them. Pregnancy is a choice of promiscuity or lack of birth control for those who are married. When planned parenthood stops the abortions, the funding may resume. Until then I am for the ceasing of any funds from the state or federal government. I'm sorry ladies but if you learn to keep your legs closed you can have your funding, if not, well that is the price you will pay. I'm am not about to be part of abortions, and if my taxes go there that makes me an accessory to murder, so therefore I bow out. I'm not going to stand before our living God and answer for the eliminating of millions of children, just for your convenience. Your cussing and anger won't work with me. You prove your animal behavior by the words by which you speak. I give this article a definite thumbs down. And I certainly won't pass it on.

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    1. I can only assume that you're equally vehement about your opposition to your tax dollars being spent on war (we're ALL accessories to murder on that one buddy). If not not then your politics are ones of convenience and you're likely as big of an ass hat as you sound.

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    2. What an absolute load of shit from a fundamentalist dick. "our living god????" Give me a frikkin' break. Your statement proves that this is INDEED about your religion, and you're trying to stuff your beliefs down my throat. And by the way, my daughter is "expecting," and also the mother of three beautiful kids. Take a hike, jerk.

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    3. Bodpart - Your first sentence is contradictory. How does abortion become an issue? When religion tells you that the "unborn" need to be protected. The funding to PPH should never be based on what services they are providing to the public. I'm a woman of pragmatics. Religion and politics should not be hand-in-hand, keep religion out of your politics. In fact put your religion first in your life, I'm sure if you did you wouldn't end up writing judgmental pieces asking the "promiscuous" to keep their "legs closed". You'd offer help to those who need it, without prerequisites. Some would call me "godless", I'm an athiest, I live my life by a very simple set of rules - Treat everyone you meet with kindness - no matter who they are...well wait, that's a lie. There's an exception for idiot-Republicans like yourself.

      As JD in KC stated your tax dollars are used to fight an unnecessary war that is murdering our soldiers and civilians in the countries they are fighting. But I'm sure you could care less about the Iraqi/Afghani/Paskistani people.

      Let me also take a shot in the dark - you complain about welfare services and your tax dollars being used there? Either we provide services that help educate/help those that need it or we pay for it in different services. You make your choice. I'm a working and contributing member of the workforce in the US, I don't complain about taxes because it's a natural part of being a citizen of this country.

      You say anger and cussing won't work with you but honestly, I don't think anything would work to make you see the larger picture.

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  37. Very nice job, Meg. But, I'm not sure what it is that you're pissed about. You had a good job, with insurance, but you left it voluntarily. Your kids are on your husbands policy? Just get on his policy. Problem solved. But then, you didn't like the receptionist in the "regular" doctor's office. You like going to PP. Good for you. Oh. Guards at medical facilities aren't that uncommon. Ever hear of Stanford Hospital? Yep. A guard, sometimes big a burly, greets you before you can enter the emergency room. C'mon Meg. Did this scenario really happen?

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    1. Bill. The article never actually said anything about her husband's employment and/or benefit status. It seems to me you are projecting your elitist views and missing the whole point of the story. She's pissed about the whole system. Clearly, her concern lies with humanity. You ignorant twit.

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    2. Meg's hubby is a very gifted musician/composer, but I doubt that gig carries medical insurance without cash on the barrel-head.

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  38. Meg,

    A further comment from the same published author. "I have now read two more of Meg’s posts. Why haven’t NYC agents gobbled her up? All three of her posts brought me to tears, and the braniac analytical person I am deeply appreciates the knowledge and even erudition she brings to the table."

    You need to be paid for your abilities; that part is obvious. It's not my field, but I know people who are familiar with how it works.

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  39. Strange coincidence. This post of yours went viral and suddenly Facebook no longer allows links to blogspot blogs to be posted.
    I wonder if the Koch Brothers bought Facebook stock this weekend, lol. I wrote a piece on it, I mentioned you, I hope you don't mind. I linked back to this post.
    http://ceeceescrazyworld.blogspot.ca/2012/05/facebook-fighting-good-fight.html
    Cheers,
    MamaZinga

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  40. My boss just sent this post to me and it brought me to tears! I work at the PP clinic you are writing about and I am so happy that there are people like you who can so beautifully articulate the importance of our mission. Like you, I will continue fighting for women's rights until I take my dying breath. PS - The staff loved the essay!

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